Tips on Love, relationship and dating

Tips on Love, relationship and dating

Here are some simple and effective tips that could redefine your concept of relationship to a greater extent.

1. Even if you are dating someone you know, it is best to meet him or her at a public place such as a park or a restaurant. A public place provides safety and security.

2. If you are familiar with your date, you should have an idea of his or hers likes and dislikes. Create a list of activities that you and your date would both love to do.

3. Remember that the date should be fun. Bring laughter into the conversation by bringing out your sense of humor through jokes. Make every activity light and happy.

4. Calling your date right after you went out together to say thanks is a more personal approach.

5. Do not appear too needy by talking to your date over the phone for hours. Keep the chat short and simple.

6. Do not let your nerves overpower you when talking to your date. If you have to, try practicing what you are going to say beforehand.

7. Even if your date doesn't see you, she would definitely appreciate if you are talking with a happy grin as it would come across the phone line.

8. Sending messages through your mobile phone are fun and convenient, but is easily misinterpreted.

9. Pleasant surprises are far better than defeated expectations. If the phone rings, let them leave a message and respond as soon as you are ready to call back.

10. If you said you call, do so, even if it is to let them down gently. Expecting a call that never comes is a worst thing that you can do to someone.

11. Just before calling it a day, try out an aromatic bath and spray on your own irresistible brand of perfume. Tempt him with a sexy smelling you.

12. Discover your sexy touch and lead her on with a head massage followed by a full body massage and don’t forget the sensual massage oils.

13. Tired of monotony? Surprise him with a sexy little dance of your own and pick up the laciest lingerie for it.

14. On a relaxed Sunday afternoon, cuddle up to him with the fragrance of freshly washed hair making sensual magic.

15. Do something naughty together like have an ice cream for dinner or have a shower together.

16. A cocktail at night or a coffee early morning, had together cuddled up between the sheets is sure to be bang on.

17. Wanna spend the day in the bed with your partner? Get dark drapes and red scarves to cover the lamps in your bedroom to strike the right note.

18. Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Carve out at least half an hour a night and at least one day a month when you the two of you spend time exclusively together.

19. You will both need security, comfort. A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.

20. Keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don’t cling, as that can make your partner trapped.

21. Encourage him to listen to you, by showing appreciation when he does. By the same token, show interest when he talks to you. Be aware that most men aren’t mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time.

22. Make him appreciate you. Don’t wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for his agreement.

23. Research suggests you need five positive experiences to erase the memory of one negative experience. So give five kind words for each rude comment. Give five hugs for each cold shoulder.

24. Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to restore good feeling in your relationship---giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile.

25. Often those subtle quirks that first attracted you to your partner can, with time, turn around and become annoying habits.

26. Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. Remember that while men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions.

27. Learn that punishing your partner won’t work. It may make you feel better to give him a hard time, but it will actually make him dig his heels in more.

28. Money is the main cause of couple conflict. For a relationship to work, you need to address finances and work out a budget.

29. If the domestic work is not divided fairly between you, it will cause friction in your relationship. Make a list of the domestic tasks, talk it through with your partner and mobilize the whole family to share the work.

30. If you have children, involve your partner as much as possible with childcare –even if you feel he’s not as good as it at you are. It’s important to present a united front to your kids.

31. Learn how to negotiate. Each of you states what you want, then both of you work together to find a way forward.

32. Don’t assume you won’t be tempted to have an affair as almost everyone is. You need to learn to resist. If you do stray, don’t feel it spells the end of your relationship. Most couples recover, particularly from one-night-stand, and often find that unrooting the cause of the affair helps them to get even closer. So, you need to learn to resist. But don’t think that an affair is the end of everything.

33. Remember that boredom typically covers up anger. If you feel bored with him, ask yourself what you’re angry about.

34. Be aware that men feel overwhelmed by emotion more than women do. If he’s angry or tearful, half an hour’s ‘unflooding’ time to himself will help get his balance back and make him more able to interact positively with you.

35. Learn how to argue well. The trick is to never say anything that you wouldn’t want to hear said to you.

36. Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating.

37. Wearing provocative or inappropriate clothing risk making the wrong impression if you are going on a first date. Wear clothes that are appropriate to the venue, and at the same time your date would be familiar with.

SOURCE: INDIA SYNDICATE